Stressed ^ infinity

There are a lot of things for me to do from now until July 15th, but the more I get into the whole wedding mojo the more I feel stressed out.

My fiance's mom was compiling a list of people to invite to the shower my future aunts (I guess that would be their title, right?) are throwing for me. It is supposed to be a joyous occasion, but I do not know how joyous it will be.

She asked me for a list of my friends to put on the list, if you are reading this, know me in real life and did not get invited, do not feel offended I had to cut a lot of people off. Well, I bring a list to her and she tells me to cut it. She never said how many people I could/should invite to the event before and at first was very, "add whoever you want" which turned into "pick your 10 best friends".

Sometimes I wish everything was not about money or how many people this and that, I just wish we could have a nice quiet evening to do... pretty much nothing. I have no idea what they have planned for me but the further along the process we get the more I feel my fiance's mom is taking over my life. She can be very nice and understanding sometimes, but for the most part she is inconsiderate, flighty, nonattentive, oh the list could go on but it makes me feel sick just thinking about it.

On a better note, my birthday is on Saturday. My maid of honor is also preparing for her own nuptials, so on Sunday we're all supposed to go shopping for bridesmaid dresses, I am one of her bridesmaids (I think I am her maid of honor, she's introduced me as such once or twice but I really want to ask her to confirm). So we're doing that on Sunday.

My fiance's mom was supposed to go shopping today for some things she needed from the mall, she invited me to go along but then cancelled at the last minute. It really frusterated me because we were already on our way to her house when she called me. The way she told me about how she reached her conclusion also kind of annoyed me, it seemed as though it was a burden to have us over. Lately, we have been eating at their house a lot and have been relatively helpful around the house, but I do not know if I want to help her anymore because of the attitude I felt I got on the phone.

I feel bad mostly for my fiance who has to be in the middle of all of this. He doesn't really have to be "in the middle" but it seems as though he has been put in this situation, by me and my her. What do you think would be the best way to alleviate the situation? I want to put my foot down and tell her something about the way she is being inconsiderate, but I don't want to be offensive or rude. My fiance is perfectly fine with talking to her, but he is often to blunt and can be very mean. Also, if I let him say something about it than she will effectively have her way (in a round-about way) because I am letting him "take care of things" for me, which is how she thinks our relationship should be. I really do not know what to do and am infinitely stressed, if there is such a thing.